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[Alexandr Korol]

fascinated by toy cars or whatever. “Ah, the bastard!” And then she starts tearing him down. But never mind that. So, imagine that you suddenly notice that your man comes home from work today, and for you, it’s already on autopilot – because every time you felt this before, you would immediately start arguing, trying to influence him, to poke at him somehow. Maybe you’re already tired of this, or maybe you’re just beginning this journey, and you’re already mentally sharpening your knives, thinking, “Aha, I’m going to give him hell now.” And then you remember that the same thing happened last week – that he came home and, for three or four days, was like this, as if he wasn’t really with you. But then a conflict happened. And what happened after the conflict? He snapped out of it, sobered up – you did too, interestingly enough. You may not even see yourself clearly, maybe you also get lost somewhere, but never mind that. So, imagine – he sobered up, you sobered up, and in the days following the conflict, everything feels clear. He seems fully present, aware of everything, noticing everything, remembering everything – and you do too. And you even feel his presence, interestingly enough, even when he’s not physically there, even when he’s gone somewhere, it’s as if he’s still with you. And sometimes, he might physically be right next to you, yet it feels like he isn’t there at all – and for women, this is very important. That’s why I’m using this example – it will make more sense to you. Though, to be honest, I’m not actually talking about relationships here at all – I’m talking about multiverses. But we’re getting to that. Now, imagine this: today, your husband, your boyfriend, your man – just like yesterday, just like the day before – is sober, conscious, present with you, everything is fine. He hasn’t turned into someone else, he hasn’t changed – everything is good. But at the same time, you still have your own family values, your own rules about what is good and bad, how things should be, how they shouldn’t be, and so on. And let’s say you’ve always told your man that it would be better if he went to the gym in the morning before work, and after work, he should come home as soon as possible – to have dinner together, to see the kids, or just so he wouldn’t have to sit in traffic for three hours, because by the time he gets home, you’re already asleep. And let’s say you’ve told him this a thousand times, sincerely, that it bothers you, that you have requests, that you are willing to compromise with him. You’re even ready to do something for him in return – like, for example, making his favorite pizza for breakfast forever –