Alexandr Korol

if he would just adjust his schedule a little and not stay late after work for the gym. Just as an example. Now imagine this paradox – he’s still sober and present today. He’s at work. And at five in the evening, you’re expecting him to come home. But at five, he messages you: “Listen, sorry, I decided to go to the gym today. I didn’t go in the morning, it was hard to wake up on a Monday, so I decided to go after work.” It doesn’t matter if you snap at him, stay silent, or even pretend like you don’t care and just say, “Okay.” But you know what? When he does this – and you know because this isn’t the first time – when he comes home, it’s already a different version of him. Not the one you like, but the other one. The one I described earlier – the one who seems like he’s not really with you, like he’s on a different wavelength, like something else inside him has awakened. So, he went to the gym, he comes back, and you see that if you try talking to him now, he won’t even hear you. You realize that, once again, a conflict is needed to bring him back, as if he’s in a fog, as if he’s simply in a parallel reality. And because of this, your attitude toward him starts to change. And you see that it’s not just about you noticing how he has changed – he himself starts behaving differently: in the family, at home with you, in his attitude toward you, in what he does and what he wants to do. You see that he no longer says thank you for dinner, or that he doesn’t sit with you for an hour over dinner discussing everything like he does when he’s “normal.” Instead, he eats quickly, just like he does when he’s lost, when he’s that other version of himself – he finishes eating in half an hour and rushes off to do something else. Women often notice how their children, relatives, or husbands can change like this, but they don’t understand why. They look for a reason, and most often, the reason seems to be some friend, some person, or some activity after which they always notice that he is different. And that’s why they start forbidding it – “I’m sick of you going to the sauna with the guys.” And he doesn’t understand why she’s so fixated on the sauna. But the thing is, it’s not about the sauna. She just sees that after that, he’s no longer with her, no longer on the same wavelength, but has shifted into some other state. And that’s exactly what happens – because he is tuning into completely different vibrations, and he doesn’t just snap out of them. He returns to the family still on that wavelength. And she wants nothing to do with those vibrations, she doesn’t give in to them, and this creates a gap – a fracture between worlds. But! Now, the most important thing I initially wanted