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Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2025 6:03 pm
— I have no complaints against you, I just don’t want to communicate anymore, don’t worry, you’re a good guy.
— No, tell me.
— It doesn’t matter. It happened and it’s over.
So the person will want to hear from you themselves what they did wrong. But if someone did something bad and you immediately attack them that same day, telling them they are bad, that they broke your car or took it without permission, that they are rude hooligans or belong in a graveyard, then of course it will feel like an attack and negativity to them. They will defend themselves and respond even more negatively, and that’s bad. So if someone served you badly at a restaurant, just don’t go back to that restaurant anymore. If someone behaved badly at a birthday party, just don’t invite them to your next birthday — that’s it. No need to explain or prove anything to them, absolutely not. That’s another interesting conclusion I came to. It feels like once I realized this, I finally freed myself, like a last hook that was holding me. Another conclusion I made, which actually came during this winter, is that a few months ago the system kept showing me movies every day about a man, a father raising children without a mother. I didn’t understand what this sign meant, whether I would be some kind of lonely father or what. Then I decoded this and understood that what the system was really showing me was that I need to treat people like children. And it showed me why specifically the upbringing of a father matters, because I am a man. To make me see this, it showed how a man interacts with children: how children throw tantrums, how they get upset or angry at him, how he sometimes gets angry at them, and then how he finds a way to relate to them, how they find common ground. One of the movies is “We Bought a Zoo,” where they show a situation where the boy, the son, slightly scolds the father played by Matt Damon. This was a good hint from the system about the fact that no matter who people are, no matter how strange or alien they may seem, no matter how scary, unpleasant, or rude they are, you still have to treat them like children or like a wounded animal that might bare its teeth at you and keep you away. You shouldn’t judge or scold the animal for being bad or growling at you — you have to put yourself in its place.
— No, tell me.
— It doesn’t matter. It happened and it’s over.
So the person will want to hear from you themselves what they did wrong. But if someone did something bad and you immediately attack them that same day, telling them they are bad, that they broke your car or took it without permission, that they are rude hooligans or belong in a graveyard, then of course it will feel like an attack and negativity to them. They will defend themselves and respond even more negatively, and that’s bad. So if someone served you badly at a restaurant, just don’t go back to that restaurant anymore. If someone behaved badly at a birthday party, just don’t invite them to your next birthday — that’s it. No need to explain or prove anything to them, absolutely not. That’s another interesting conclusion I came to. It feels like once I realized this, I finally freed myself, like a last hook that was holding me. Another conclusion I made, which actually came during this winter, is that a few months ago the system kept showing me movies every day about a man, a father raising children without a mother. I didn’t understand what this sign meant, whether I would be some kind of lonely father or what. Then I decoded this and understood that what the system was really showing me was that I need to treat people like children. And it showed me why specifically the upbringing of a father matters, because I am a man. To make me see this, it showed how a man interacts with children: how children throw tantrums, how they get upset or angry at him, how he sometimes gets angry at them, and then how he finds a way to relate to them, how they find common ground. One of the movies is “We Bought a Zoo,” where they show a situation where the boy, the son, slightly scolds the father played by Matt Damon. This was a good hint from the system about the fact that no matter who people are, no matter how strange or alien they may seem, no matter how scary, unpleasant, or rude they are, you still have to treat them like children or like a wounded animal that might bare its teeth at you and keep you away. You shouldn’t judge or scold the animal for being bad or growling at you — you have to put yourself in its place.