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[Alexandr Korol]

the good one yet again and he’s like fool. And a lot of people have the same problem. They don’t like to listen to a lot of advice because it’s okay to listen to advice and it’s right. But there is also a subtle plan, this sense of self, who you are, who you are as a person, this importance. And it turns out that the system is telling me that I shouldn’t tell my friend advice in this way, that it’s better another way. So let him do what he wants, let’s say a choice, let him choose something, and if he chooses a bad thing and asks you if it’s bad or not, you say “well, explore some more”, but you don’t say what’s right. So it’s like, if you pick the best apple out of 20 apples in a basket, if I will pick that apple and pull it out for you, then I’m depriving you of development. And it makes you psychologically sick that you’re lousy and I’m smart again. And if you pick 20 apples and show them to me and I say ‘no’, the second one, the third one “no”, you say “which one?”. I say, “Search for yourself.” And when you find an apple for the seventh time, I say, “Well done! You found it,” and you feel good. Do you understand? That’s the way it should be. But it doesn’t apply to all people, and I was just told to do it with one person. With another person I was told to do it differently, that if a person screws up – this is my second friend – I can say, “You screwed up. If you don’t correct yourself, you will die in the future because the system will punish you”, that’s how I like to communicate, you know me. And now I was told that I should do it differently, that if a person has done something wrong and made a mistake, then “you tell him – “yes, you made a mistake, but let’s try again, everybody couldn’t do it the first time, I couldn’t, but you can come on, you will learn faster, let’s do it. So you have to make a person believe in himself; you have to tell him, “Dude, I believe in you. It’s good that you failed; everybody’s failed, let’s do it the second or third time, come on, come on”. And then a person will grow. And if you say to him, “You have failed again, you are a fool,” it is as if you are depriving him of the opportunity to believe again and to try again with that faith. And yet it is necessary for people to try. But this does not apply to every- one. Some people need to be approached specifically, let’s say, with a stick and not a carrot. Well, everybody has different positions. So far I’ve surrounded my- self with people who, you know, it’s great that they don’t need to be scolded, they need to be supported. This is also an indicator of how good the people around me are. With others you have to be hard. I don’t want to be hard at the moment. That’s why I don’t have those people around me now.