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[Alexandr Korol]

it’s not the right dog or the right person? It’s not about whether you should get a dog or have a relationship; it’s about making sure you choose the right one – the right dog or the right person.
Now, let me explain further. All of you have this tendency to act impulsively. You like a dog or a person, sure, but don’t rush. Take your time. Get to know them, but don’t hurry. I’ll give an example: Imagine you like a man or a woman, someone. You might even be talking to this person. People with a low level of development rush things. They’re like, “So, are we dating or not?” Like it’s a transaction, like being at the store. They’ll say, “Well, what’s it going to be? Yes or no?” or “Maybe later”, or something like that. They start negotiating. Someone living in their mind, which is not good – it’s the old programming – needs something concrete. They want certainty that this person is ‘the one’ and that the relationship starts right now. But this isn’t like building a house or signing a contract. A more enlightened person should approach it differently. If you like someone, sure, you can tell them, but don’t rush to build something serious in a year. You can go on dates for a whole year. You can text each other for a whole year. Take a month off from each other intentionally to see if the connection fades. If it does, then it wasn’t meant to be. But if they wait for you, then maybe they’re the right person. That’s enough interaction. Maybe six months later, you’ll take a vacation together. That’s already a relationship. But no – you want to immediately label it as a relationship, lock it down. Why? Why can’t you both remain free, as you were, and let that person remain free as well, without being possessive? Just go have coffee tomorrow if you want. Then, let them live their life, and you live yours. Don’t interfere with their life. If you can do this, you’re more spiritually advanced, more like a person of the future. If you can’t, then you’re that selfish consumer. That’s it!