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[Alexandr Korol]

many readers resonated with it — because many people today are going through the same thing: criticism, not being believed, having others distrust them. Let’s say, metaphorically, you saw a UFO, and all your loved ones, instead of listening to you, immediately spin a finger at their temple and say you’re crazy. And that hurts, it’s unpleasant. Maybe you just started to reflect on something, and suddenly it seems like everyone wants to crush that very faith you have in something — maybe you’re not a master at eloquently describing what you feel or perceive, the way you see the world differently — but when you try to share it with someone, to discuss it with loved ones, your spouse, parents, grandparents, you find that most people instantly start to laugh. Why do they react that way? Is it a defense mechanism? It’s unclear. Maybe it’s just too hard for them to understand. And they respond like that just to shut the conversation down. To turn it into a joke, because these people live in the rhythm of “ha-ha, hee-hee,” everything is superficial, nothing matters — that’s their defensive reaction to avoid feeling any kind of depth. And when you touch on some deep thought, they immediately want to turn away from the topic. And then it depends on how your relatives were raised. If they are rude and negative, they’ll say you’re in a cult, or that you’ve taken something strange. If they’re decent and well-mannered, they’ll just say: “What’s going on with you?” and worry: “Why are you thinking about things like that? Why are you thinking about fate?” For example, you say: “Does a person have a destiny?” And suddenly a relative gets scared: “What do you mean, destiny? Why destiny? Why are you thinking about that? What happened?” And you just say to your relative — again, you see, people are so frightened by this — you just say it interests you, that “maybe not everyone has a destiny, but maybe some do, and do I? I was just wondering.” And that’s it, and your relative thinks something has happened to you, and some friends will probably laugh or say: “What have you been watching? Reading some nonsense on the internet and now you believe in destiny? Ha-ha-ha.” That’s what they might say. But really, it’s a defensive reaction — people protecting themselves from truth. A defensive reaction to real depth. When you sincerely want to talk about something deep, everyone immediately wants to either turn it into a joke or say that you’re sick. That’s it — two conclusions. This is shown very well in the film “Matilda”, the Hollywood film with the little girl and Danny DeVito, when her parents —